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Sixelele yintoni INYANISO UBUHLE kuthetha kuwe kwaye ufumane ithuba ukuphumelela i-lonxibelelwano yi-Naturals. A wokuqhawula umtshato akukho mfuneko ayithethi isiphelo romanticcomment budlelwane nabanye ebomini bakho. Indlela unako-Indian abafazi yiya malunga dating emva wokuqhawula umtshato?»Andikho omnye. Ndiza kwi longstanding ubudlelwane kunye fun nenkululeko.»Ewe — mna anayithathela rhoqo wayecinga ngoko ke xa wabuza ukuba kutheni mna ke kwakhona omnye nangona yayo s uhleli phezu ezisixhenxe ubudala ngoku. Andikho kuphela omnye. Uninzi divorced Indian loomama imisebenzi misela kwi uhlobo wry sneer xa uthetha nabo malunga dating emva wokuqhawula umtshato. Baya. noba ekubeni a fabulous ixesha ekubeni omnye kwaye discovering oko kungenxa yokuba ufuna ukwenza emva lifetime ka-pandering kwabanye abantu ke neemfuno, okanye bamele kusenokwenzeka ukuba abe? recovering ukususela trauma ka-wokuqhawula umtshato. Umariya Kay Blakely, umbhali omnye umama, uthi dramatically,»wokuqhawula umtshato ingaba psychological no ye triple coronary yi-kudlula. Emva enjalo monumental assault kwi-intliziyo, kuya kuthatha iminyaka ukuze yenze utshintsho kuwo onke imikhuba kwaye attitudes eyayikhokelela phezulu kulo.»Budlelwane coaches kwaye counsellors’ ingcebiso ixesha ekubeni yedwa kunye ngokwakho, kokuza imiqathango kunye zinto, kwaye ukufunda ukuba ngathi ngokwakho njengomntu phambi uzama tshati i-i-shark infested, choppy amanzi budlelwane nabanye. Emva kokuba anayithathela sele ngokusebenzisa counselling kwaye kuba waphilisa ukusuka wokuqhawula umtshato nibe yokucinga a budlelwane. Ufika epheleleyo yima phantse ngokukhawuleza ngenxa umbuzo ufuna zibuze:»Apho kukho bonke abantu.»Abo. idla zonke watshata kwaye, njengoko abanye abantu ke husbands ingaba i-hayi-hayi, kwenu njengokuba divorced Indian umfazi begin ukuba ummangaliso ntoni ukwenza. Divorced abantu. Uninzi divorced abantu ukuba kufuneka ahlangane ingaba i-absolute mess. Bambalwa kakhulu divorced Indian abantu kuya kuba counselling okanye nkqu ukuba izinto ngokusebenzisa i-iimposiso elokugqibela lonto yenza ucacelwe sehlo kwaye ibeka ghosts ukuba kuphumla. Ubukhulu becala, baye bahlala stuck kwi morass ye mna-pity, refusing ukusa phambili, ayinako hambela ngasemva, bemoaning wabo wolahleko abantwana, ezilahlekileyo ulutsha kwaye ezilahlekileyo nempumelelo kwabo. Nangona oku omnyama umboniso mna ipeyinti nibe? crave companionship, quarrels, edibeneyo dinners nangona ngethemba wena musa phupha ka-ukuhlamba impahla yakhe shirts kwaye ukufumana kwabo ironed. Ufuna ukuya kuhlangana umntu — ezikhokelela endaweni ethile, mhlawumbi nento yokuba kodwa hayi yokucinga apho. Ukufumana kwi budlelwane kufuneka ubeke ngokwakho phandle phaya. Kufuneka umhla. Njani sihamba malunga nayo? Ingaba dating emva wokuqhawula umtshato ezahlukileyo ukususela dating phambi wokuqhawula umtshato. Ukuba baye ‘umhla’ kwaye zezenu akusebenzi ukuba i-arranged umtshato, nibe nokwazi into okanye ezimbini malunga dating. Ukuba ufuna divorced emva kwexesha ebomini, uza kuba absolutely akukho ulwazi dating, nkqu ukuba baye yakho ulutsha enaphatha ngenxa yokuba yonke into itshintshile kwaye enaphatha ngenxa yokuba musa ngenene ukhumbule ukuba ndiye malunga nayo. Mna ngamanye amaxesha ucinga ukuba kulula kuba abo iintsapho zabo ‘ilungelelanise’ zabo weddings — ewe, nkqu yesibini omnye — matrimonial imihlathi kuba isithuba kuba divorcees kwaye Umthunzi ngu graced angeliso offshoot ngokuba Yesibini umthunzi. Kodwa ke kwakhona, i-arranged thelekisa ayi namanani kuba wonke umntu kwaye ‘umthunzi’ kuthetha umtshato. Kanye divorced, abanye abantu ekugqibeleni vula phezulu ukuya unye a budlelwane kodwa hayi nkqu zabo eyona imbi uloyiko lwasebusuku ingaba umsebenzi kwabo remarrying. Ngayo ngokulula ayi i-khetho kuba baninzi divorced Indian abafazi. Kwanalo ilizwi umthunzi ithumela shivers phantsi zabo spine. Shivers ka-musa ukoyika tremors ka-onemincili anticipation. Bathi dating ingaba eyona ndlela ukufumana ukwazi ukuba ukhe ubene ithelekiswa kunye umntu isigqibo sokuba ngaba ufuna thabathani elandelayo inqanaba. Mhlawumbi wena musa kwaye ingaba iselwa ninoyolo ukuba umhla na teenager, nje kuba fun. Mhlawumbi ithemba ukufumana umntu othile ukuze kufumana isidlo sasemini kunye, jonga i-wefilim kunye, incoko ukuba kunye akukho lwamagama iqhotyoshelwe ukukhanya-hearted kwaye enjoyable kunye akukho okulindelweyo, ezikhokelela akukho ndawo ngaphandle ngakumbi outings. Companionship endaweni usapho lomntu ngamnye. Kwi-intanethi ilungileyo kuba loo — dating websites njenge OK Cupid ingaba ingozi enkulu, betha, aze aninike ekunokukhethwa kuko ezisebenza kancinci kwi-intanethi kwaye ukuhlola umntu phambi ngqo intlanganiso nabo. Layo s eyona ukulandela amanyathelo okhuseleko — kwazisa umhlobo, bahlangana kwi crowded indawo kwi-daytime. Kukho akukho mfuneko woyikayo kodwa lumka. Get ukwazi guy ngenene kakuhle phambi bechitha na kuphela ixesha kunye naye. Kukho iselwa iindlela ezimbalwa ukuya kuhlangana abantu ukuba umhla kunye, xa usenza ukuthatha plunge. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ahlangane umntu emsebenzini, ikofu-shop okanye kwi-i-mutual umhlobo ke, ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka wasinikela kancinci tyhala kwaye kuba proactive. Yintoni ezithile kukuba kufuneka uyazi into ofuna kwaye ngoko uza ngokwenene ukufumana indlela ukufumana oko. Omnye oomama kufuneka ukuphikisana ezinye hurdles efana nokungabikho a babysitter, cautioning abazali okanye kwezabo fears kwaye insecurities. Mna qinisekisa ukuba uyakwazi koyisa kubo, xa usenza ukuba ufuna umhla kwakhona emva kwakho umtshato. Ndiyazi anayithathela apeyintwa a ngaphantsi rosy umfanekiso dating emva wokuqhawula umtshato kodwa honestly, dating kwakhona ibonisa ukuba ukholelwa ebomini kwaye uthando ngaphandle yonke into. Ndafumanisa oku lovely caphula kwi Myeni — andiyazi apho kuya originated ke mna andinaku credit umntu — kodwa ndinako landela icebiso:»Uthando ngokungathi kufuneka zange sele kwenzakalisa phambi.»Zama xana intlungu kwaye umdaniso kwakhona. Ukuba ke phawula a true ophumeleleyo kwaye fitting a wokuqhawula umtshato koobhontsi yakho nose e oko, balibeke emva kwenu kwaye ukuqala ubomi afresh nikholelwa kuya kuba bhetele, ngoku ukuba ukhe ubene wiser. Ndingumntu divorcee, ndifuna ukuba bangene omtsha budlelwane, kodwa ndim kakhulu scared ukuba nkqu cinga umtshato njani mna kuloyisa ukoyika. Molo, kufuneka amalungelo ukuba hangout okanye dating kuba umntu uyafuna. Ewe, kungenjalo kuwe wawulahla umphefumlo wakho ulonwabo nakwi-ubomi. Unqwenela kuwe kuba ndonwabe umphinda-phinde ngo kwixesha elizayo. Mhlekazi Aparna, ndinguye kakhulu i-zahlukane umntu kakhulu optimistic ukuhlangabezana omnye umfazi. Kindly uqhagamshelane ukuba kunokwenzeka. Akhonto ezingachanekanga Ekufumaneni kwi Entsha Budlelwane. Khangela Yayo ubomi bakho kwaye awunokwazi inkunkuma kuyo ekubeni omnye zonke ubomi bakho. Umngeni nguwe nje ufuna ukufumana ilungelo umntu unqwenela ukuchitha ixesha lakho ngenxa yokuba musa t ufuna ukuphinda efanayo mpazamo kwakhona. Ndinqwenela kwenu bonke kakhulu kakhulu ebomini. Intliziyo yakho ingaba i-ukuvula incwadi. Ngoko ke, kuya kuba yakho Umnu Ngokwenene Olugqibeleleyo ebomini bakho. Ubomi alikho phezu emva ekubeni divorcee njengoko ezinye omnye abo threw kuwe paha kulento dirt, uya kuba enjoying ubomi abanye okanye ezinye apho kwaye society ayinakuze ibango umntu onjalo. ngoko ke, kuba uqinisekile kwaye kuba cheerful ukwenza ubomi bakho colorful kwaye musa t care i-eyona imbi society ukuba uzele isiseko. Ke ubomi bakho kwaye awunokwazi inkunkuma kuyo ekubeni omnye bonke ubomi bakho. Umngeni nguwe nje ufuna ukufumana ilungelo umntu unqwenela ukuchitha ixesha lakho ngenxa yokuba musa ufuna ukuphinda efanayo mpazamo kwakhona Enkosi Anuj. Umntu kufuneka ube naye inkululeko yayo ubomi kwaye ngu-ehlonipha ngamnye-ezinye. Molo, kangangoko omnye ufuna umhla, ambalwa ngakumbi amazwi kakuhle mtg ppl efunyenweyo kwi-intanethi okanye ngenye indlela ingaba uncedo. Jasmine Molo Jasmine. Enkosi kuba lonikezelo. Andinalo t cautioned abafazi ngenxa yokuba izinto idla ngobukho bonke jones stories engqonge i-intanethi dating. I-unye ngu ukuxhobisa kwabo. Kubalulekile kunjalo wise ukuqhubeka chu kunye umntu ufuna ve kum, i-intanethi kunye get ukwazi kwabo kakuhle yi uthetha okanye chatting phambi proceeding ngokwenene intlanganiso nabo. Oku ngenene elungileyo inqaku kufuneka ekwabelwana ngazo apha. Ngokunxulumene nam divorcee kwaye abahlolokazi bamele kanjalo kuba nelungelo kwaye inkululeko dating kwaye khetha ixesha eliphakathi ukuya kwelide yi-kwezabo kuya, nokuba ngaba kungenxa-intanethi dating okanye ezinye. Babe ukufumana abahlobo zezinye kuthetha kanjalo kwaye uyakuthanda kunye nabo, kodwa ndicinga ukuba kuyo kufuneka umtshato ekugqibeleni. Ikhangeleka ngathi wam wedding beza kunye wokuqhawula umtshato kunikela. Kuvakala ngathi ubomi bam ophele ngowama-nkqu phambi kokuqalisa. immix onayo watshata (arranged) Feb. Ngelishwa kwi-gay okanye into kwaye ngoku yokufumana divorced. Ndiza shattered. Ndinguye Chris Savarkar, kuzalwa kwaye bred kwi-United kingdom. Ndifuna ukusebenzisa le ithuba izimvo ukuba Indian abafazi kufuneka overlook i-inkcubeko okanye masiko ka-India nto eyimfama folding zethu abafazi kunye angakudlakathisi ngokwasemzimbeni, mentally kwaye ngokwasemoyeni emtshatweni kwaye njalo-njalo. ukuphila ubomi benu lakho likhulu peaks kuba kuphela abahlala unako phambili ngoko ke cinga kabini kwaye bazimanye kwaye ngaphandle ngothando, nanini kwaye kunjalo njengoko ixesha elide njengoko zakho umoya siyalela kuwe. Ngaphezu koko, uthando ngu unconditional Molo Chris. Imeko yabasetyhini kwi-engaselunxwemeni base i-India iye ukuphucula considerably kwiminyaka edlulileyo kodwa plight le ngokwesini ingu na ezamandulo ubudala kwiindawo ezisemaphandleni. Oku ibe ngenxa yabo nokungabikho imfundo, inability ukufumana imisebenzi okanye conservative upbringing. Le meko kungathatha decades ukutshintsha njengoko i-India akakwazi ukulawula bonke umyinge. Xa uninzi abantu baphile ngezantsi intlupheko umgca, ingeniso earner ngu wajonga phezu njengokuba qfontdatabase-Thixo, usapho. Oku umntu kwi-uninzi iimeko izakuba umntu, ukususela loo mntu kanjalo uneducated, lowo kuvele iwonga a tyrant. Umfazi uza gcina icimile nkqu ukuba lowo liphakamisa bakhe izandla yakhe okanye molests wakhe ebusuku njengoko yena ufuna ukutya kwaye ngendawo yokuhlala kuba wakhe ukuba abantwana baza kuba herself. Abantu behlabathi ulawulo, ibhinqa ukuzimela ukufumana ingqesho kunye nemfundo ingaba isitshixo iphawula wam imbono apho kugqiba plight ka-namhlanje s Indian abafazi. Ndingumntu divorced umntu unyaka kwaye kufuneka uhambe nge-esihogweni ngexesha wokuqhawula umtshato inkqubo ne ex yam, kodwa mna? ngokubhekiselele oku ngokwesini kwaye ndiqinisekile ukuba guqula ukuba umfazi kuba ekubeni kunikwe wokuzalwa ukuba beautiful abantwana bam, kungani ukuba abafazi iintlungu ngoluhlobo. kutheni ungavumeli t siya kuza ngaphandle oku yemiyalelo. Ingaba umtshato yonke into ebomini. Andifuni t cinga ngoko. Kubalulekile kuphela encinane nesabelo sethu ubomi s uhambo. Kubalulekile na lottery. Ihlala isebenza kakuhle kuba mbalwa kwaye akubonakali t umsebenzi ngaphandle kuba ezimbalwa abanye. Oko sele nto ukwenza kunye nokuba umfazi yindlela elungileyo okanye engalunganga. Kubalulekile nje ukuba umtshato lottery akazange yokukwazi ukuyifumana. Kwi-western inkcubeko, abafazi zange yiya kwi-zalisa depression ukuba umtshato akubonakali t yokukwazi ukuyifumana. Bahamba kunye kuhlangana abantu abatsha kwaye sibone ukuba umntu ongomnye ayikwazi kuba zabo elide umhlobo. Kodwa, inkcubeko yethu bubizwa njengoko dating kwaye bakhangela phezulu kulo njengoko enkulu ulwaphulo-mthetho. Akuvumelekanga dating. Akuvumelekanga into kwenzelwa nje kuba fun ngaphandle seriousness. Sino ukufumana elungileyo umntu owenza kusenokuba zethu elide, umhlobo Wethu inkampani kwi urgent imfuneko yokuba umthengisi a medicinal herbal isisombululo vital kwi-imveliso vaccines kwaye antiviral iziyobisi kuba izilwanyana ekhutshwe kwi-e-India. Ukuba anomdla, nceda uqhagamshelane kum. Ndinguye Cupidity — PING kum, uthando. Co-authored yi-Kiren Rai Madhavi Ahuja, ndingumntu fiction samkele. Ripe kuba Engaselunxwemeni Indians kwaye abantu anomdla kwi-intanethi dating kwaye budlelwane nabanye kwi-urbane e-India. Heee Kiren kwaye Madhavi. Incwadi yakho izandi kakhulu umdla kwaye ndinga uthando ukuba uhlole oko kwaye enze udliwano-ndlebe nawe. Sandeep Razvan enkosi yakho insightful izimvo. Mna nento yokuba ukuzingenisa ukuba le ngxaki ukuze abafazi ubuso ngu ngenxa kasolusapho indlela ukucinga. Layo s na kunokwenzeka, nabo ukufumana imfundo, ukufumana umsebenzi ngenxa yokuba aren t bavumelekile ukwenza ezo zinto. Yonke inkcubeko ephantsi-lizwekazi ngu malunga ukwenza umntu yonke ebalulekileyo kwaye umfazi subservient. igama lam ngu yokutshiza kwaye ndim divorced kwaye ujonge divorced umfazi kuba umtshato kwaye ubudala ingaba phakathi. Loomama Web yindawo Indian umfazi lowo ufuna ukuhlala owenza kunye ihlabathi, abo ikholelwa ukuba yena sele indawo ehlabathini, kwaye izimvo ukunikela. Siza kugxila loomama mna-uphuhliso kunye pursuit yovuyo, yi-umnikelo ulwazi career uphuhliso, entrepreneurship, ulawulo umsebenzi kwaye usapho, ngempumelelo abafazi, abafazi ke, impilo, imiba yezentlalo kwaye personal yezimali. Imbono yethu kukuba uncedo abafazi ukufunda kwaye ukukhula

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